Dia Mirza Rekhi Recalls Being Hard on Herself When She Didn't Become a Mom at 30: 'There Was Anger' | Exclusive

Bollywood actress Dia Mirza Rekhi embraced motherhood in her late 30s. Not only did she give birth to her son Avyaan when she was 39 but she also opened her arms to Samaira Rekhi, her husband Vaibhav Rekhi’s daughter from his first marriage. But, not many know that Dia wanted to have her first baby by the time she was 30. But life had other plans. In an exclusive conversation with News18 Showsha on Mother’s Day, Dia opened up about the personal milestone she had set and the aftermath of not achieving it at the time.

The Dhak Dhak star recalled setting the milestone of becoming a mother by the she was 30 and said that it was a result of conditioning. “You’ve grown up with the idea of (having children early). You set personal milestones that by the time I am 26, I want to be married, before I am 30, I want to have my first child, etc. But life plays out the way it has to play out,” Dia said.

“I think that it is that resistance to go with how life is playing out for you that creates stress and tension, and trauma and all kinds of problems. And the only way to genuinely find happiness is to find acceptance in the way things are panning out. And of course, for me, I was absolutely sure I wanted to be a parent so there was no doubt I wanted to have a child,” she added.

Asked if she was disappointed when she did not hit the personal milestone, Dia admitted that she was angry that life did not play out as per her plan. She added that she was hard on herself and it also affected her relationships at the time.

“I went through hell. There was anger, there was resentment, there was despair, there was all of that. And I think it may have taken a toll even on my relationships. So it does, it’s natural for it to affect you, affect your relationships when you are hard on yourself and have such rigid conditioning,” the Rehnaa Hai Terre Dil Mein star confessed.

“It takes your own understanding of yourself to say, ‘One second, what am I doing here? I am just making things worse, I just need to step back and asses why things are not happening the way they need to.’ If they are not happening for a certain reasons then you need to work on fixing the problem or stepping back from it, taking a break and giving yourself a break more than anything else. I think as women we are too hard on ourselves and that’s a combination of many things, maybe social conditioning, maybe patriarchy but most often than not, it’s just us being very hard on ourselves,” Dia said.