How to Control Premature Ejaculation

Using Behavioral Techniques

Try the pause-squeeze method. If you and your partner are willing, you might try the pause-squeeze method for learning to delay ejaculation. Stimulate the penis without entering your partner. Notice when you are about to ejaculate. Ask your partner to squeeze your penis at the place where the head meets the shaft. Your partner should squeeze for several seconds until the need to ejaculate lessens. After 30 seconds, resume foreplay and repeat as necessary. This will help you to gain control and enable you to enter your partner without ejaculating immediately. Another variation on the pause-squeeze method is the stop-go technique. This is the same as the pause-squeeze method, except that the partner does not squeeze the penis.

Use self-help techniques. These are methods that you can do yourself that may help you to delay ejaculation: Masturbate before sex. If you plan to have sex later in the evening, try masturbating an hour or two before. Use a thick condom that will reduce the amount of stimulation you get. This may make it take longer for you to climax. Avoid using condoms that are designed to increase your stimulation. Breathe deeply right before you ejaculate. This can help you to stop the ejaculation reflex. It may also help to switch to thinking about something boring until the urge passes.

Change the position you have sex in. If you are usually on top, consider switching to the bottom or changing to a position that will allow your partner to move off of you if you are about to ejaculate. Then resume sex once the urge to ejaculate has passed.

Go to counseling. You can do this either alone or with your partner. This can be helpful in dealing with: Performance anxiety or other stresses in your life. Sometimes if men are concerned about being able to get or keep an erection, they may develop a pattern of ejaculating too quickly. A traumatic sexual experience when you were younger. Some psychologists believe that if your early sexual experiences included feeling guilty or a fear of being discovered, that you may have learned to ejaculate very quickly. If you and your partner are having problems in your relationship, this may be a contributing factor. This could be the case if the problem is new and did not happen in previous relationships. If this is the case, couples counseling may be helpful.

Try topical anesthetics. These medications are available by prescription or as over-the-counter as sprays or creams. You put them on your penis before sex and they reduce the sensations you feel, helping to delay the climax. Some men, and occasionally their partners as well, have reported a temporary loss of sensitivity and reduced pleasure. Common ones include: Keep in mind that these topical options are not helpful for everyone. Lidocaine Prilocaine

Getting Medical Help

Go to a doctor if self help techniques didn’t work. Sometimes premature ejaculation is a symptom of another underlying problem that needs to be treated. Possibilities include: Diabetes High blood pressure Alcohol or drug abuse Multiple sclerosis Prostate disease Depression A hormonal imbalance Problems with your neurotransmitters. Neurotransmitters are the chemicals that convey signals in your brain. Abnormal reflexes in your ejaculatory system A thyroid condition An infection in your prostate or urethra Damage from surgery or trauma. This is not common. An inherited condition.

Ask your doctor about Dapoxetine (Priligy). This medication is similar to selective serotonin-reuptake inhibitor (SSRI) antidepressants, but it was created to treat premature ejaculation. It is a relatively new drug and is usually the first thing your doctor will try to treat this issue. If you are prescribed this medication, you will take it one to three hours before sex. Do not take it more than one time per day. It may cause side effects including headaches, dizziness, and feeling unwell. It is not suitable for men with heart, liver, or kidney conditions. It may also interact with other medications, including other antidepressants. Other options include the SSRI's paroxetine, sertraline, fluoxetine, and citalopram. The typical full effects of SSRIs (which are taken every day, not on-demand like Dapoxetine) are not seen until about two weeks after you begin use.

Talk to your doctor about other medications that delay orgasms. These drugs have not been approved by the Food and Drug Administration for use in treating premature ejaculation, they are known to delay orgasms. Your doctor may prescribe them for you to take as needed or daily. Other antidepressants. Possibilities include other SSRIs such as sertraline (Zoloft), paroxetine (Paxil), fluoxetine (Prozac, Sarafem) or the tricyclic clomipramine (Anafranil). Side effects may include nausea, dry mouth, dizziness, and reduced interest in sex. Tramadol (Ultram). This medication is used to combat pain. One of its side effects is that it can delay ejaculation. Other side effects include nausea, headaches, and lightheadedness. Phosphodiesterase-5 inhibitors. These medications are often used to treat erectile dysfunction. They include sildenafil (Viagra, Revatio), tadalafil (Cialis, Adcirca), and vardenafil (Levitra, Staxyn). Side effects include headaches, flushing, vision changes and a stuffy nose.